The biggest hang up I see in kids (and adults) with ADHD is not their executive function skills. It's their own shame about how they function.

When kids with ADHD try to do things like everyone else, they fall into a shame spiral. They need guidance, support and encouragement to help them figure out what works best for them.

When parents become aware of this, kids feel empowered, self-aware, and motivated.

Instead of seeing laziness, bring some curiosity.

If the task is necessary:

• *How can I support my child through this task?

• *How can I highlight their strengths?

• *How can I break up the task and celebrate each step?

• *How can my child be part of deciding when and how the tasks gets done?
  

If the task is not necessary:

• *Is this really the right task for my child right now?

• *Can they learn these skills in a more enjoyable way?

• *How can I give them credit for the skills they're working on while they play?
  

Your child is not lazy! Their strengths many not be lending themselves to what and how you would like to get things done today.

Their growth right now doesn't have to be checking off all the "have to" boxes to feel accomplished. It can simply be understanding what they need in order to accomplish any task.

This often happens in their own interest-led play!

Their amazing brains will transfer these skills to more challenging tasks as they mature.